• Rules

    Love reality

    I was reading Byron Katie’s book on Tao and I was amazed by her extreme realism. She loves reality, even if it is cancer. She embraces it anyway. This non-resistance for me is an ideal to strive for. Dentist I got proof that this approach works from going to the dentist. When in my mind I agreed that it would…

  • Questions

    Should I compete?

    Competition is everywhere. As soon as we measure performance, we compare and compete with others. There is a winner and the rest looses. I tend to see more and more competition these days, fueled by our liberal capitalist  life style. Every area is treated as an open market where the best may win. Should I compete or is there another…

  • Rules

    Embrace my mistakes

    I was reading a book on music improvisation. It said that there are no wrong notes. There is only your expectation and disqualification of a note. The author advised to accept the existence of the wretched note, and even replaying it en trying to incorporate it in you music. This, I think, is an excellent advice in life too. The…

  • Rules

    Don’t follow the money

    Sometimes I am surprised by the obsession of our current society with money. Economy is everywhere and business men rule the world. I try to scale down money as a motive in my live. Let me explain why. Money isn’t everything I used to say that measurement is knowledge. And money is an excellent scale to measure all kinds of…

  • Questions

    How did I do?

    The longer I  walk around in this world, the more I become convinced that good self-assessment is a valuable skill. Knowing my strengths and weaknesses helps me in taking the best course in life. Above all, it is necessary for a person to have a true self-estimate, for we commonly think we can do more than we really can. –…

  • Questions

    Why do I like that?

    I am constantly judging people, things, situations, myself. This inner valuation mainly stays unconscious, and even is involuntary.  A cannot stop hating the smell of sweaty feet. Why is that? How do human preferences develop and are they changable after they are formed? Preference development When Googling preference development, I encountered an article on developing taste in infants. It appears…

  • Quotes

    Desire

    Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for. – Epicurus

  • Questions

    Goal or process?

    The older I get, the more I wonder: should I focus on goals or on process? Being a left-brain oriented person, I am continuously drawn towards goals, because they can be measured and compared. But more and more I become aware that this goal orientation makes me miss the point. I lose sight of the process and, what’s worse, I…

  • Quotes

    Loneliness

    The fear of loneliness can be overcome, for it springs from weakness. Human beings are intended to be free, and to be free is to be lonely. – Cyril Connolly